新习惯 1997年11月21日
新习惯
加利福尼亚州，卡诺加公园
1997年11月21日
好了，在你们这个时间的今天，我向你们问声好。你们大家都好吗？我们再次借此机会，感谢你们每一个人，允许我们在这个特定的时间、通过这种特定的方式进行这次信息传递。每一次你们以这种方式让我们的文明与你们的文明进行交流时，我们都能通过你们每一个人，有机会体验到关于 “无限” 的更多观点，我们感谢你们给予的这种拓展和分享的礼物。
在你们这个时间的今天，我们想以以下观点开启这次信息传递。我们提醒你们，现在需要养成一个新习惯，一个在你们的行为中非常重要的新习惯。我们已经讨论过几次了，但再次提醒你们也无妨，因为养成这个新习惯对你们来说太重要了；所以我们会再次提醒你们。直到你们把这变成日常个性的一部分，直到这成为你们的第二天性，我们都愿意讨论这个问题，提醒你们，让你们将这个观念融入到行为中，因为这将帮助你们在日常生活的实际层面上做出你们想要的改变。
所以，我们提醒你们，这个新习惯很简单，就是无论情况看起来如何，都不要自动、立刻地给它赋予负面含义。给自己一点时间看看正在发生的事情，在把它看成是负面的、正面的或其他特定情况之前，先学会把它看成是一种中性的情况。尤其是在那些你们可能被教导得往往会自动赋予负面含义、产生不好感觉的情况下，通俗点说，如果你们愿意这么理解的话。然后，更重要的是，你们能否花时间在自己内心培养并灌输这种保持中性的新习惯，这样你们就能从这种情况中获得更多。学会如何以积极的方式改变和转化这种情况，而不是仅仅因为它的表面现象，基于你们所接受的教导，就自动认为它一定是负面的。
当然，我们说的不是要你们忽视自己的感受，掩饰它们、掩盖它们、压抑它们。无论如何，如果有感受产生，你们应该关注它们；但关键是要理解自己为什么会有这些感受。它们不是自动产生的，某些情况不一定就会自动在你们心中产生那些感受，但如果它们出现了，那你们就必须注意它们为什么会出现。而且一般来说，就像我们说过的，它们出现是因为你们被教导了关于这种情况的定义，这些定义让那些感受似乎成了唯一合理的反应，但实际上并非如此。
我们再次提醒你们，所有情况都是中性的。如果你们学会平衡自己，首先以这种方式看待它们，那么无论情况如何，当它展开时，你们都能从其中获得更多信息、更多的洞察力、更多的启迪。至少在最初的几分钟保持中性，你们就给自己提供了一个机会，去学会赋予它与你们相关的新意义，而不管在这种情况下其他人的意图是什么，也不管在你们过去所接受的教导中，你们对这类情况是怎么看的。
最初保持相对中性，会让你们有机会更深入地洞察情况是如何形成的，从你们自己和他人以及你们社会中所存在的定义的角度来看，这些情况是基于什么；也会给你们一个机会，学会以某种方式取代那些定义，这样一来，通过赋予情况新的视角和新的意义，你们就能从中获得新的影响、新的效果、新的意义和新的感受。学会如何让任何情况都能以积极、建设性、创造性和拓展性的方式为你们服务，而不是继续在生活中认为某些情况在你们的现实中必然且只能产生负面的东西。
你们才是创造自己所经历现实的人，即使可能涉及到其他人，也是你们对情况的认知和定义决定了你们个人在生活中从其中获得的效果。养成这个新习惯，花点时间停顿一下，不要自动给情况赋予负面意义，而是给自己一个机会，把它仅仅看作是一组中性的 “道具”，一组中性的 “方程式”，一个由于各种原因而出现的中性情况，把它看作一个关键点，然后你们就可以通过探索你们内心的定义来赋予它新的意义，这些定义让它似乎已经有了现有的意义。要记住，这些意义、这些感受、对情况的这些反应并不是随着情况本身而来的；没有哪种情况自带内在的意义。你们所拥有的意义、感受和反应已经存在于你们的意识中，基于你们所接受的关于生活的定义。
养成放下这些的新习惯，不要自动认为那些定义就是对绝对现实的定义，因为除了你们赋予它的定义之外，不存在其他现实，而这就是现实的本质。
所以养成这个新习惯吧，它会在日常生活中以实际和实用的方式为你们服务。只要有必要，我们会多次提醒你们，直到它成为你们日常行为和个性的一部分。当它成为你们的一部分时，我百分之百保证你们会看到生活中的变化。你们会发现自己更有能力确切地决定自己的生活应该朝着什么方向发展，以及你们能够相信什么对自己来说是可能的。同时，以中性的态度看待情况，你们也会更有能力理解如何去帮助那些可能陷入自己的定义中、无法找到摆脱困境的方法、无法理解正是他们自己的定义让情况看起来如此坚不可摧的人，而实际上这些定义不过是像薄纸一样脆弱。
要明白，现实只是你们最强烈信念的产物，从这个意义上说，也只有这一点让它看起来如此坚实和不可改变。通过改变你们的定义、改变你们的意识来转变这些东西。这并不一定意味着你们必须在发生在自己身上的每一件事情中都看到宇宙层面的影响，尽管在某种程度上，当然总是存在着这样的影响。但无论如何，它会让你们像拥有你们所说的 “X光透视眼” 一样，洞察到同步性和情况的本质与结构，并且让你们更有能力理解情况是如何取决于你们被教导相信为真的那些最强烈的定义的。
感谢你们今天让我们与你们分享这个观念和观点。作为对你们给予我们文明这次交流机会这份礼物的回报，现在我想问，我能以何种方式为你们服务呢？
提问者：巴夏！巴夏！巴夏！
巴夏：你们好。
原文段落：
A New Habit
Canoga Park, CA
11-21-97
All right, I’ll say good day to you, this day of your time. How are you all? Once again, we take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you for allowing this transmission to occur, through this particular method and on this particular time. Once again, each and every time you allow our civilization to communicate with your civilization, in this manner, it affords us an opportunity to experience, through each and every one of you, that many more perspectives of the Infinite and we thank you for this gift of expansion and sharing.
We would like to begin this transmission, this day of your time, with the following idea. We remind you that a new habit is in order, a very important new habit in your behavior. We have discussed this several times, but it will not hurt to remind you again because it is so important for you to develop this new habit; so remind you again, we will. Until such time as you make this part of your day to day personality, until such time as this is second nature for you, we will always be willing to discuss this, to remind you, to implement and incorporate this notion in your behavior, because it will assist you in making the changes that you wish to make in your lives, on a day to day pragmatic level.
And so, we remind you that this new habit is simply the habit of not automatically, nor immediately, no matter how the situation looks, assigning or ascribing a negative connotation to it. To give yourself a moment to look at what is going on and to learn to see it as a neutral circumstance before you see it as negative or positive or anything in particular. But particularly in those circumstances where you may have been taught to, more often than not, automatically assign a negative connotation, a bad feeling, colloquially, if you wish to put it that way. Then, even more importantly, can you take the time to incorporate and instill this new habit of neutrality within you so that you can get more out of the situation. Learn how to change and transform the situation in a positive way, rather than simply, automatically assuming it must be negative because of how it looks, based on how you have been taught.
Now, of course, we are not talking about ignoring your feelings, glossing them over, covering them up, pushing them down, suppressing them. By all means, if feelings come up, you should pay attention to them; but the idea is to understand why you have them. They are not automatic, and certain situations do not necessarily need to automatically generate those feelings in you, but if they are there, then you must pay attention to the fact why they are there. And generally, as we have said, they are there because you have been taught definitions about the situation that make those feeling seem to be the only logical reaction to have, when in fact they are not.
Again, we remind you, all situations are neutral. And if you learn to balance yourself and look at them, first and foremost, in that way, then you can gain more information, more discernment, more enlightenment from the circumstance as it has unfolded, no matter what it may be, no matter what it may be. And in remaining neutral, at least for a few moments, you give yourself the opportunity to learn to assign new meanings to it that will be relevant for you, regardless of what anyone else’s intention in the circumstance may have been, regardless of what you may have been taught in the past to think about such circumstances, as you see them.
Remaining relatively neutral at first, will give you an opportunity to gain greater insight, more depth of understanding as to how the circumstances came together, what they are based on in terms of the definitions that are going on in you and in others, in your society; and give you an opportunity to learn to replace those definitions in such a manner, so that in doing so, and in assigning new perspective and new meaning to the circumstance, you can then glean from it new impact, new effect, new meaning, new feeling. And learn how any situation can serve you in a positive and constructive and creative and expansive way, rather than continuing to live your lives assuming that certain situations must only, and can only be capable of generating negativity in your reality.
You are, you are the one that is generating the reality you experience, and even though someone else may be involved, it is your perception and your definition of it that determines the effect you personally extract from it in your life. Learn the new habit of taking a moment to pause and not automatically assign a negative meaning to circumstances, but give yourself the opportunity to see it as simply a neutral set of props, a neutral set of equations, a neutral circumstance that has come together for a variety of reasons, and in looking at it as a nexus point, you can then begin to assign new meaning by exploring the definitions that are within you, that have given it the meaning it already seems to have. For remember that these meanings, these feelings, these reactions to circumstances do not come with the circumstance; no circumstance carries a built in meaning. The meaning, the feelings, the reactions you have are already built within your consciousness, based on the definitions of life you have been taught.
Learn the new habit of letting them go, and not automatically assuming that those definitions are definitions of an absolute reality, for there is no reality except the definition you give it, and that’s what reality is.
So learn the new habit, it will serve you, day to day, in practical and pragmatic ways. And we will remind you of this as many times as is necessary for it to become a part of your daily behavior and personality, and when it is, I guarantee 100% you will see a difference in your lives. And you will see that you have more ability to determine exactly in what direction your lives ought to go and what it is you are capable of believing, that is possible for you. And also, simultaneously, in looking at circumstances neutrally, you will become more capable of understanding how it is you may be of assistance to others who may be caught up in their own definitions, and unable to see a way to break out of the situation and circumstance, and unable to understand that it is their own definitions that have made the circumstance seem so iron clad, when in fact it is made of nothing but tissue paper definitions.
Learn that reality is only the product of your strongest beliefs and that is the only thing that makes it seem so solid and so immutable in that sense. Transmute these things by changing your definitions, by changing your awareness. It does not necessarily mean that you have to see cosmic consequence in every thing that happens to you, though on one level, of course, there always is. But nevertheless, it will give you insight, like what you would call an x-ray vision, into the nature and structure of synchronicity and circumstance and will give more ability to understand how circumstance hinges upon the strongest definitions you have been taught to believe are true.
We thank you for allowing us to share this notion, this perspective with you this day. And in return for the gift that you are giving our civilization in allowing this communication to unfold, I ask now, in what way may I be of service to you?
Q: Bashar! Bashar! Bashar!
B: You, good day.